Abusing in the name of...

This post contains some abusive and strong language. Continue reading if you are comfortable with it.You have been warned.

A couple of days back, the first thing my friend asked me after entering my college was, " Abey laude, tune Assignment kiya kya?". This was a casual and innocent question. But got me thinking. Has swearing become such a crucial factor to be integrated into my life that now,with which, i cannot live without?

The 'swear' words that we use to represent derogatory remarks, is by definition amusing.

On one hand, 'swear' means, to take oath,to declare a promise.On the other hand it means to utter obscenities.To promise is to utter obscenities!.So, next time any guy tells his girlfriend,"I swear to you..." It might mean that he is either promising something, or he is uttering profanities and is likely to break that oath.That is English language for you, contradictions in the meaning of the same word. 

I then started becoming conscious of the swearing going around me,"arre woh toh chutiya hai","arre ,call that Gandu".

"who the fuck does that madam think she is?".

These are casual remarks, but are derogatory. Derogatory in what sense?. In the sense that you compare that person, usually to a reproductive organ or a excretory organ or to a general reference to consummating.

Why is this derogatory?,Well it is, because since we were a kid, we were brought up to believe that sex and things related to sex were taboo, and any reference to something related to faeces was disgusting, eventhough because of these two factors alone, we are able to sustain our lives and continue our human species in this planet.

That is not bad per say, but that is how it is.

But now another question arises, Why do we swear?

Is it due to the western movie influence on the minds of teenagers, thinking it would enhance their 'cool' factor?

Well, maybe, but that is not always the case. I mean, i learnt my first abuse way back when I was in 4th standard(yes, I know i am disgusting), and it wasn't even english. Infact it was kannada,and that word 'Tikhlu' was the equivalent to 'Gandu' in Hindi.

Then, is it the society?

i don't believe this is a factor,but every now and then, when I walk on a busy road, and  there is an accident, you are bound to hear something abusive, which might be embedded on the minds of innocent passer-bys or little kids who don't know the meaning of '!d%*)^R'.Other than that, i can never imagine a Indian home filled with abuses,nor do i think that it is how it works.

Then, the simplest answer that dawned on me, was a word.

'Frustration'

Frustration regarding the system.

Frustration regarding the roads.

Frustration regarding exams.

Frustration on looking at extremely poor people, begging on the roads.

Frustration on getting extremely bad food for a lot of money in a Hotel.

Frustration of not finding a Hotel with affordable price.

Frustration with the rising college fees.

Frustration Frustration Frustration.

At these moments of life, some words do come out through our mouths. It will not solve the problem.It basically, is a sigh, which has vocabulary.

But does that make you a bad person?An indecent person?

Well, not necessarily.Cursing does not make you a bad person. It just means that, thats your way of dealing with the problem.

The pleasure of screaming 'fuck' in a empty room after a session of gruelling exams or lessons is unparalleled.The kind cursing that i am talking about is casual cursing. The ones that are spoken between friends in a conversation.Not during fights and arguments.

But should you do it?

Well, that depends from person to person and from situation to situation. It would be highly inapproriate to use that lingo,in business or in family surroundings, and sometimes, getting used to abusing may lead you to involuntarily utter stuff in front of people, who should be the last ones to hear you like that.

Cursing is an important characteristic in life, if you so choose adopt it. 

As for me, I better continue with completing my assignment, else my fucking teacher might put his snake in me.